Pregnancy

Pregnancy, it looks good ...


What words to say ... or not to say? Announce to those around you that you are pregnant can be a real headache. We must spare the susceptibilities, adapt to his interlocutor. Here are some ideas for not making a flop.

To your parents

The safe bet : "Mom, I'm going to be mom too!"

  • Why talk to your mother first rather than your two parents at the same time? To establish a complicity of woman to woman. The presence of male protagonists - often quick to hide their emotions - could interfere with this feminine intimacy. In other words, a little atmosphere! By emphasizing that you join her in the "clan" of mothers, it is a beautiful gift that you make to your mother. Implicitly, you tell her that she herself played her part well, that thanks to her the "chain" continues.

To avoid : "You are going to be grandparents, how lucky you are to be able to have a baby!

  • This type of sentence has a certain effect : Unceremoniously catapult your parents on the next generation walk. And they do not necessarily want to be reminded of this inevitable advance in age! Just like daddy when you told him the news, they too need time to imagine themselves as grandparents.

To your elder

The safe bet : "Dad and I, we're going to have a baby."

  • This "we" must be really embodied : no way to announce the pregnancy to your first child without the presence of dad. Especially if it is a boy of 4 or 5 years: otherwise, carried away by his Oedipal desires, he could be taken for the father of the future baby. You find the ad a bit abrupt? You would have liked to add "it will be great", "you're happy, huh?" Well no, your child may not find it great and he may not be happy at all! Even if he acts as if nothing had happened, he perfectly understood and understood. His questions, his fears and his joys he will express later. Let him come ...

To avoid : "You're going to have a little brother or a little sister.

  • A child is generally very proud to become a big brother or big sister. But at the same time, a little worried. Sometimes we would ask him to keep the baby or give him all his toys ... Nothing in the ad should lead him to believe that because of the baby, his life will change completely, he will have to give up to lots of things or, if so, share his room. While he is concerned, but this baby, it's still the case of his parents! The use of the "you" that puts him in the front line is not particularly recommended.

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